The fact that the youth of today, teenagers and young adults, walk around with the attitude that the world owes them a favor has been eating at me for along time. As the mother of six beautiful children, this concern is near and dear to my heart.
So what do I mean when I say the youth of today act like the world owes them a favor? Well …… they moan and groan when their parents don’t give them everything they want, complain when there is no food in the kitchen or a meal isn’t served up to them, balk at curfews and are totally appalled when asked to do chores around the house! For the most part, the youth of today show no respect to their parents, to authority or to themselves. The youth of today seem to walk around with a ‘I was born, therefore I am entitled’ attitude and I am sick of it!
The youth of today are being ruined by their parents!
So why do the youth of today walk around with this sense of entitlement? Why do they feel that they deserve a reward each time they show any level of responsibility? It’s because their parents taught them to be this way! Here is my take on it … because we live in a time when both parents are working outside of the home, I believe the majority of parents walk around with guilt for not being more available to their children. Because of this guilt they pretty much go into ‘butt kissing mode’ where Junior is concerned; they can’t say no to him because, in their mind, they have a warped perception that equates material gifts to expressions of love. Unfortunately, instead of creating a self assured child who feels loved and has strong family connections and values, they create a selfish little monster! Believe me, I understand this because I’ve lived it with a couple of my own children. It just doesn’t work!
The youth of today are being
taught bad habits at young ages!
For the most part, when the youth of today potty train they get a new toy, when they clean their room they get money, when they make good grades they get an expensive gift, when they have a birthday they receive hundreds of dollars in gifts and an extravagant party and THE WORST YET …. when the youth of today graduate from high school most of them EXPECT. and many of them receive, a brand new car …. even if the parents can’t afford it! Are you kidding me?!?! Isn’t graduating high school a necessary part of growing up, a right of passage? Why do parents go into debt because they feel obligated to buy a car for their graduating 18 year old? I tell you why, it is because, not only are the youth of today conditioned in this behavior, the parents are too! Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying we shouldn’t celebrate this milestone for the youth of today, I’m just saying that they SHOULD NOT expect a ‘break the bank’ gift for doing what is expected of them. Yes, applaud their achievement but don’t treat them as if they just graduated after 10 long years in medical school!
Bill Gates, the richest man in the world, recently gave a speech at a high school where he talked about eleven (11) things the youth of today will not learn in school. He explained how our feel-good, politically correct teachings have created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept has set them up for failure in the real world. I couldn’t have said it better so I’ll let Bill take over from here.
Bill Gate’s Message to The Youth of Today
Rule 1 : Life is not fair – get used to it!
Rule 2 : The world doesn’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.
Rule 3 : You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.
Rule 4 : If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.
Rule 5 : Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: They called it opportunity.
Rule 6 : If you mess up it’s not your parents’ fault so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them.
Rule 7 : Before you were born your parents weren’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were: So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent’s generation try delousing the closet in your own room.
Rule 8 : Your school may have done away with winners and losers but life HAS NOT. In some schools they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. *This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.
Rule 9 : Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. *Do that on your own time.
Rule 10 : Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.
Rule 11 : Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.
WOW! He pegged it didn’t he? I believe that we can turn this alarming trend around. We can get back to teaching responsibility to the youth of today and give them the opportunity to feel the wonderful feeling of self accomplishment that comes from working hard and doing a good job. We can quit depriving our children of one of the most important elements in their growth … respect! The youth of today can learn to respect themselves and others if they are allowed to sweat a little bit, punch a clock, buy their own car, pay for their own way and learn to set and achieve goals. We can save the youth of today but they aren’t the ones who have to change, their parents are.